How often do we make assumptions??

Isn’t it interesting that no matter how many times we are told, we still do it, and that is make assumptions about people. ‘ Never judge a book by it’s cover’ my mum used to say. When we meet people for the first time I am sure that within the first few seconds we have judged that person. How do we judge them? By their clothes, the way they speak, how they look, what they say, what they do for a living, what car they drive, where they live? Some, or all of these factors enter into our decision making process.I guess that we have to go through this ‘checklist’ to enable us to find out whereabouts this person is going to fit into our life. Are we ever going to

Unfinished business

I am a very lucky man. I have a loving and supportive family, and the best friends that anyone could ever wish for. I have a social life as busy as I can cope with, and I get asked to do lots of very exciting things. My days are never predictable and to a degree, health and hospital appointments permitting, I can do what I feel like doing, when I feel like doing it. Unfortunately that doesn’t include foreign holidays, as I don’t feel I have the energy to take that on just yet. For the last 5 years, cancer has dominated my life. For the first part of that, it wasn’t my choice. It took me down like a bolt of lightening and before I knew it, I was enveloped in the physical, psychological and

Stepping off lifes treadmill for a few days!

Having not been able to work for a few years now, my average week has taken on very different connotations. With regular hospital visits and my weekly volunteering, and football on Saturdays, a new pattern has emerged. It is still a routine, but a different routine. I have also noticed an email routine! I am very busy Mon-Thursday. sporadic on Friday, nothing much over the w/end.Even Twitter and Facebook go quiet then. The only emails that are busy in this period are marketing ones! It was interesting to see even this routine change, as those people that work, started finishing early on Thursday, ready for their long Easter w/end. Is it that our social networking is now done in work time? I can see with the activity on my blog. that most

We all deal with things differently

I spend most of my spare time talking to people who’s lives have been affected by cancer, either directly or indirectly, including patients, relatives, friends, and also health professionals. My personal experience has been an  extremely harsh apprenticeship to serve but I can understand why it had to be done, to enable me to do the work that I do now. The skills that I developed in my business life, together with my personal cancer experience, have meant that I now have a vast back catalogue of experiences that I can call on when required. This experience was of great use, when I was talking to two people who had received a similar diagnosis. Both people were offered a similar treatment schedule.But each person had received their information in a different way. For

A beautiful world!

A beautiful world!

(THOMAS) Well here he is Chris, not the best photo but will send you better ones when we have downloaded them!! “Loved the programme, the blog is inspiring i love reading it and you do have the effect of making us sit up and think, thank you” ” Re your blogs, they are the most inspirational dignified and eloquent pieces I have ever read” lolxxx I wanted to dedicate this post to two very good friends of mine, who have emigrated to France. They have had some very difficult times over the years, and we have supported each other through thick and thin. Above is the first picture of their first born, son Thomas. I consider myself to be very privileged to receive the pic this morning. My friends also wrote the

Fallout from a cancer diagnosis

Stiliyan Petrov to retire from football after leukaemia diagnosis, saying ‘football is over, this is the end’ Reading about the very sad case of Stiliyan Petrov the Aston Villa footballer, prompted me to write about the shock of  receiving a cancer diagnosis. I, like most people never thought that I would receive mine. I imagine that there are a lot of people out there now thinking, if it can happen to a fit guy like him, it can happen to anyone. Very possibly a lot of people are talking/ thinking about cancer for the very first time, having heard this very sad story. It is unfortunate but in the world which we live, we tend to take more notice of something when it happens to someone in the public gaze. Stiliyan is

The mantra for my life.

DON’T GIVE UP When things go wrong as they often will,When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,When the funds are low and the debts are high,And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,When care is pressing you down a bit,Rest if you must but don’t you quit.Life is queer with it’s twists and turns, As everyone of us sometimes learns,And many a failure turns about, When he might have won had he stuck it out,Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,You may succeed with another blow,Success is failure turned inside out,The silver tint of the cloud of doubt,And you can never tell how close you are.It may be near when it seems so farSo stick to the fight, when you’re hardest hit,It’s when things seem worst

How we affect other peoples lives

First of all please accept my apologies for a delay in fresh posts, but regular readers will know why. The last few days have been like a blur!! So many things have happened to me that it really is like a story book.When I first started writing this blog, I did wonder if I was going to run out of subject matter. I also wondered who would be interested in my life anyway? However, after talking to several trusted friends and professionals, and having been given a long sentence of debilitating treatment, I felt that it would be a great way of communicating with people.Since writing about my experiences I now realise that I don’t have an ordinary life!! What I have is very special. I am living a gift. The life I