However, how does the unexpected affect us? Redundancy, illness etc. Things that happen that we can’t plan for. Sportsmen that get injured and can’t perform again. Illness that means you will never be able to be as good as you were at your job, if you can even return to work.So many different scenarios! Some people adapt better than others. What is the key to dealing with change?
Personally, I struggle to put my past behind me. I feel that my life before cancer helped make me what I am today, and I feel sometimes that I keep referring back to my old instruction manual, for help with my new life. I often feel that I need to let go of my past life to enable me to truly move on with my new one. I seem to always be comparing what I am able to do now, with what I could do then, which as I said earlier just frustrates me!
I am now a very different person, and my priorities have totally changed. At times I don’t even recognise myself. I always felt that in my working life, I embraced change. In many respects I feel that certain change is a good thing, as it can drive progress.
Having never been into hospital, to it suddenly being my second home is strange. Not knowing how I am going to feel tomorrow, is terrible. Spending most of my waking day working, to not knowing if I will ever be able to work again, is very tough to adjust to. When I was working, I felt very independent, now I feel very dependant. Overall I would sum it up by saying that I feel vulnerable.
These are just some of the dilemmas faced by people who are diagnosed with a long term illness. Not only do they have to adjust, but people in their lives, have to adjust too. This promotes further change, as everyone deals with a new situation. Are there any rules for this, no? We all deal with it, the best way we can. For some, there is professional help, and in some instances there might be a need for medication, but ultimately it is down to the individual to deal with their own issues.
How do you cope with any of the major changes that you have faced in your life. Do you think you should have dealt with something differently. Did the change work out for the best? Do you embrace change. Maybe if something life changing has happened to you, maybe it improved your life, for example, winning the lottery!!
I look forward to hearing your story!